DEAR HARRIETTE: I met a man with a really cool business, and I approached him about working with him this summer as an intern. We had a great conversation afterward, and he told me I could start whenever I want, but then he told me that internships at his company are unpaid. He does work with schools to offer college credit, though.
I am a college student on financial aid, and I need to work in the summer and save money for the school year. I really want a chance to work with this man. Do I dare tell him my situation?
I know that lots of companies offer only unpaid internships, especially if they are small businesses. But no matter what, I can’t afford that.
Do I Speak Up?
DEAR DO I SPEAK UP? By all means, explain your situation to this man. You never know. He may be able to make an exception for you.
When you reach back to him, tell him what you believe you can do to add value to his company. In the end, people are hired for jobs because they have skills to offer or interest in what the company does. Pitch yourself as being worth it. Then negotiate for what you need in order to work there.
If he agrees, work as if you are making a million dollars. One day, maybe you will!
DEAR HARRIETTE: Earlier this year, I met a guy I really liked. We talked a lot and went out once, but nothing really came of it. More specifically, I thought we liked each other a lot, but when I came back to town after spring break, he kind of iced me out.
Whenever I see him now, he doesn’t even speak to me. That is weird, but I am trying to move on. We live in a small town, though, so I see him around a lot.
Fast forward to now. I met a guy who invited me out. He is cool, and I can see myself hanging with him. The thing is, most of his friends are connected in one way or another to the other guy.
It feels awkward. I never really dated the other guy, but things ended oddly.
Should I go out with the new guy even though I will probably run into the old guy or his friends if we start going out?
The World Is Too Small
DEAR THE WORLD IS TOO SMALL: Live your life. Do not let this man, who didn’t have enough respect for you to end things gracefully, prevent you from dating anybody you choose.
Assume the positive. If you do see him or his friends when you are out with this new person, say hello and keep it moving. Focus on your life and what’s happening in it right now, not on a thwarted moment with someone who isn’t courageous enough to step up and be a man.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions [email protected] or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
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